Wednesday, December 16, 2009
crazy people, lets be amazing
so. I do not understand why some girls completely sacrifice the ONE thing they can always claim. Dignity. My ex boyfriend's ex (who will not be named, we shall call her Jane Toe) has never stopped emailing me and harrassing him since the day we started dating. I just don't understand why she would lower herself and crawl back to someone that broke up with her. As a woman, I completely believe that break ups suck, yes. But, we need to rise and be better, find strength in ourselves. Chris and I broke up over the weekend. And it was one of the best, weirdest, and most unusual break ups of my life. It was SO mutual. I called him on the way home from his house and was like "We are ALWAYS on different pages. We are trying to have the same conversation in different languages." He totally agreed. And we decided we truly are better off as friends. Now, I will admit there is a bit of sadness at the parting of a relationship. Sure I miss him as a 'lover'. But the beautiful thing is, we are so completely honest and true to ourselves that we really ARE still best friends. We have talked every night since the break up like old times...like best friends. Its been bitter sweet realizing we are not meant for romantic love. But we can still share a friendship love. Now, onto Jane Toe. Why, why I ask myself would a talented, cute girl act the way she has acted? I have honestly felt so sorry for the way she has degraded herself and stooped to this primal level of girl clinging to man. What are we, living in the 1700's? Last time I checked this is one of THE most empowering ages for a woman to live. I truly wish she would, for her own benefit, see how crazy she has truly acted and move on and accept that she is talented and special, and just NOT for Chris. She will find someone else. And yes. I KNOW breakups suck. I am the ultimate romantic. I believe in fairy tales, I put my heart and soul into the happy ending. And though this is a time of sadness for me, it can also be a time of hope. My happy ending is still out there. As is Jane Toe's. If only she would rise up and become who she can be. Girls, come one. Lets not be crazy. Lets be Amazing.
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Jenn, you're a nice person but I'm not. That girl is ugly and you know it. You don't have to say she's cute.
ReplyDeleteYOU be amazing. Let her be the crazy one. Obviously, she has a lot to learn about life.
Some girls just love to have something to complain about constantly. They love to blame others for their misery and never take responsibility for their pathetic little lives.
ReplyDeleteIf she thinks that breakups are some huge trial to go through and doesn't know if she'll make it out, then she needs a serious reality check.
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ReplyDeleteDear Jenn,
ReplyDeleteI certainly appreciate your friends saying how ugly and horrible I am, just like I appreciated that in your e-mail. It's called major depressive disorder or unipolar depression, my "friends," and I'm sorry if you haven't heard of it, how about checking the DSM-IV. I've lost 20lbs because I'm too depressed to eat, I can't sleep without sedatives, I'm not functional at work, I just got the lowest grades of my life, which is not good when you're in a doctoral program, and I've tried to kill myself oh... I think it's 3 times now... I'm sorry if that makes me ugly and pathetic, but hey, I don't naturally produce enough serotonin to function in society, so I guess we should all kick me while I'm down, eh? I think I e-mailed you on 2 separate occasions, and Chris is the one who has been harassing me, if he hasn't told you that. If he could have one ten-minute conversation with me, I'd stop bugging him, but apparently that is too hard for him to do and he'd rather call the cops on me and have them harass me for 3 hours.
I got a revelation as plain as day on my mission that I was to marry Chris, and I'm sorry if you can't empathize with someone who cannot control her neurochemistry or the answers she got from God.
Look, Sarah...everyone has problems. Stop making excuses for your awful behavior.
ReplyDeleteAnd are we supposed to feel sorry for you? Don't dish it out if you can't take it.
What am I dishing out? I'm sorry I'm so ugly that you can't stand me Rachel. I'm sorry I've had a diagnosed mental disorder since I was 17. And what is so awful about my behavior? I've been trying to get an answer out of Chris that he refuses to provide. Because he won't answer me, I tried to get it from Jenn. What do you want from me? Plastic surgery and a new brain?
ReplyDeleteI'd rather we not argue on my sister's blog. I'm defensive of her because she's my sister, but this is her blog and I'm not going to keep hijacking it. Honestly, I don't want to get started on mental disorders-I'm all too familiar with them. I might even have a little sympathy if it weren't for the fact that my sister is my best friend and that I absolutely cannot feel sorry for someone who sends her awful emails and makes fun of her, as well as villainizes her needlessly.
ReplyDeleteLike I said, I'd rather NOT hijack her blog any further than I already have. Chris and Jenn are not the same person, they're not together anymore even. If you have anything you need answered I suggest you stick with trying to get answers from him.
Chris wouldn't even admit he was dating her to me, so I had to get that from Jenn. We all have our own trials to pass through, and I'll apologize again that mine is being so hideous that I disturb people that live 400 miles away from me that I've never met, and that my neurotransmitters are unbalanced. I think for what I have going for me, becoming a doctor, serving a mission, and not killing myself by now has been a good thing. In the quiet heart is hidden sorrow that the eye can't see. Having total strangers tell me how ugly, pathetic, and derranged I am is not helping the girl who was on suicide watch 4 days ago. How is asking Jenn if she understands why I was intimidated by her awful? How have I made fun of her? How have I villainized her?
ReplyDeleteI told Chris before he started dating me that things would get ugly if he broke up with me, and that I didn't want to date him unless it was serious. He saw me through the guy who valued his moustache over dating me and the guy that got engaged to a mission buddy while he was dating me, he saw the aftermath. I'm sorry he's not man enough to answer my questions or share with you, Jenn, that I have serious mental issues. He knew what was coming, he should have shared that with you.
ReplyDeletewowowow. Don't check my blog for 24 hours and suddenly its the hot spot to debate. Ha. Well...for the record, I NEVER said you were horrible Sarah. I believe to set the record straight I actually re-sent you the exact email I sent you so that you could read for yourself how level headed and empathetic it was. Read it. It might help clarify your feelings. And Rache...you are amazing for always having my back. Love you :-)
ReplyDeleteCheck your poems from April and the emails you sent Chris telling him that I'm "easy" and that he should "dare a little" to dump me to get back with you. That didn't sound very level headed and empathetic back in April, 4 months after you dumped him. You've only ever thought that I'm horrible. If you really want to be level headed and empathetic, tell Chris to cut the crap and give me closure. No more calling suicide watch on me, sending cryptic e-mails that don't answer anything, or telling me things through friends. Then I can just go away and leave the two of you alone.
ReplyDeleteI'm not going to "tell" Chris anything. He is a big boy and can make up his own mind. And the ability you have to pull complete lies out of thin air never ceases to amaze me. I WILL Not respond to anything else you have to say. Please, if you are truly suicidal, get some help. I dont want you getting hurt, I just want you to leave me alone.
ReplyDeleteSarah Kator, I'm not going to argue with you any further and neither is my sister. I've already wasted enough of my time and I can see that you're (predictably) the kind of person who has to have the last word. I'm not sure if it's because you're prideful or just desperate for sympathy from strangers, but I don't really care. You can reply to yourself a dozen times on this blog and we won't bother looking at it. It's sad that you lie so easily and then quote hymns in the same breath.
ReplyDeleteYour problems with Chris have nothing to do with Jennifer. Take up your issues with him. If you seek closure, you're not going to get it from Jennifer no matter how many creepy emails you send her.
Also, let me give you a little advice before you type yourself another few dozen replies: not every man you date owes you marriage. Try to keep that in mind. We've all had that boyfriend "we thought we were going to marry". It doesn't always work out, obviously. You may have thought you were going to marry him, whatever, I don't really care. The point is that you DIDN'T marry him. I don't know what closure you're seeking, but if the relationship has ended I'd say that's closure enough.
I'm done now. Don't bother asking me anything else, including anything about where I get off thinking I can say this to you, because you opened yourself up to it when you came on here shelling out your life story like it's the morning news to your ex-boyfriend's ex girlfriend and her sister& friends.
Have a great evening. And a great life.